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DATING DIARY + CRYSTAL FIGHTERS DOWNLOAD

I’m not really one for talking about my dating escapades. Online. Kinda personal stuff isn’t it? However.. with a few disastrous dates behind me – I’ve been reflecting recently on the kind of men I seem to attract. So I thought I’d do bit of a blog on them. Not all of them at once though. Also. I’ve just watched Girls and to be fair perhaps I need to ditch a bit of this British prudism I seem to be carrying around. Also my mate said it would be funny so here goes.

Let’s talk about MAN NUMBER ONE. In this instant… I’ll call him Louis. Oh Louis..

I met this guy… on NYE. He was (or is cos he’s not dead) a little older than I.. he’d studied at Oxford (sexy no?) and looked just like Louis Theroux (hence the nickname). So after a few smiles and teasing a coffee that would turn into dinner was booked in to the diary. We met up a few times…as friends, but there was an underlying attraction. We met up for coffee one evening…and I’m not really sure what led me to ask this question… but the words just spilled out of my mouth.. ‘So…have you ever slept with a prostitute?’. ‘Yeah’ he bluntly replied.

Very honest. I was shocked. I hadn’t actually had a man be so brutally and directly honest with me.

‘What? Really?! How many!?’… I enquired…with my mouth a little agape at this point.  ‘Oh loads. Probably hundreds.. when I was living in the middle east.. it was more like girls who hung around and it wasn’t like giving them money directly they just hung about and we’d give them cash to buy things. But I got Gonorrhoea and that freaked me out so I came back’.

Wow. I was a little taken aback. At the sheer honesty. Grateful though. However…my brain had just taken him out of my ‘potential’ compartment and swiftly put him in the ‘no go’ area.  Which was a shame. But ya know. But saying that – we were only friends though right? And maybe I’d got it all wrong and he wasn’t interested in me at all. We sat uncomfortably opposite each other…’I kinda wish I hadn’t told you that…’ he said.

A few weeks later I got the text. The booty call text… it was late…he was drunk…  ‘wanna get a taxi to mine?’.

There’s open minded and then there’s.. open minded. Ya get me?

Oh Louis…Louis Louis Louis…oh dear…

ART NEWS: Date for the diary – Ben Oakley Gallery presents new works by David Bray and Mark Powell… 16th – 26th May

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VALENTINES DAY PODCAST: INTUITION

As part of a new collaboration project with singer/songwriter @itsantique here is the first epidode of a new podcast series we are calling ‘It’s Inspirational’. Today’s podcast is on the subject of – Intuition. What is intuition – and how much do you (the public) use intuition to choose a love partner?! Myself and Antiqu’e went out on the streets of London.. and this is what we found out…. (please excuse some of the dodgy cuts – I’m just learning Garageband!) 

Features new music from James Yuill. His track – ‘Lost In California’ is taken from new album ‘These Spirits’ which he’s releasing on his own label the Happy Biscuit Club.

Also featuring Josephine’s new single, Portrait which is due for release on the 25th February.

James is raising funds via a Pledge Music campaign – click HERE

Join the conversation @ohDearyme @itsantique #ohDearyme

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Have a good day! BeckiBx

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“We’re just fragile machines programmed with a false sense of our own importance. And every now and then the universe sends a reminder that we don’t really matter to it…” Neil Strauss

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Today is the day before Valentines Day. Traditionally a day in which lovers express their love/fondness/desire for one another. You might be sitting there wondering if you should make that gesture to that ‘special’ person out there. Or hoping that that ‘someone’ will make a move. I’ve lived in numerous houses with boys.. boys that would literally sit and underline sections of ‘The Game’ (seriously) and talk about the power of ‘negging’ (the art of picking up a girl by shaking their confidence). So I thought I would make a few pointers to playing nice on Valentines Day..

Firstly boys.. don’t moan about it being a commercially driven day. It pretty much ruins the whole idea of it – and you just come across as… tight. A gesture of attraction doesn’t have to cost the earth. As Gandhi puts it ‘A coward is incapable of exhibiting love; it is the prerogative of the brave’.

Ladies – men are never too busy to get what they want. If he’s choosing not to put in the effort.. you deserve better.. Next!

Perhaps you’re being pursued by someone you’re not that into.. as the Dalai Lama puts it… Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. 

Or.. maybe *shock horror* you’ve just been dumped…. ‘One may have been a fool but there’s no foolishness like being bitter’ Kathleen Norri… pick yourself up, dust yourself off… The heart was made to be broken… Oscar Wilde

And finally.. It’s better to be unhappy alone than unhappy with someone  Marilyn Monroe

This post is dedicated to one of the greatest singers of our time. Rest in peace – Whitney Houston… August 9, 1963 – February 11, 2012

It’s all make believe, isn’t it? Marilyn Monroe

Have fun and play safe Becki Bx

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I don’t want a lot for Xmas. There is just one thing I need. I don’t care about the presents, Underneath the Xmas tree.

Oh fuck right off Mariah. I mean like how many times has she been married anyway? Not that I’m here to judge. Hell – marry as many times as you want. But please let’s give the guys a break. Christmas is  a very stressful time for relationships… and apparently many break down because they are ‘under pressure’.

I mean we’ve all been there. Haven’t we? You’re at the point where your boyfriend asks you want you want for Xmas. You blush.. smile sweetly and say ‘oh nothing you dont have to get me anything..’…peering at him and secretly hoping he can read your mind.

I believe it’s good to (occasionally) have low expectations. But I’ve never understood those relationships where the girl shrugs her shoulders and says ‘oh that’s just the way he is..’ when she gets another present of ‘sweet fuck all’ on Xmas Day. Like a good friend I’m consistently trying to advise my male friends …steering them haphazardly through the dating process.. ‘she did that but she meant this.. she said no but she meant yes..’.

So here’s some advice: it really is all very simple. She does want a lot for Xmas. There is more than one thing she needs. She does care about the presents, And she’d prefer it if it was eco-friendly.

Cos we are living in a material world. And she… is a material girl. Unfortunately.

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So you saw my blog post – Dating Tips..for men from my perspective.. (a girl duh). Well a few weeks ago I met a man in a queue whilst at the Genius Bar at the Mac store (it was a long wait). We became facebook friends and he liked my Dating Tips for Men so much he has come back to me (on my request) with a list of Dating Tips.. for all us lovely ladies… and actually the boy’s done good. So here is my first Guest Blogger on ohDearyme

Introducing.. Craig Glasgow’s Dating Tips For Girls

1) Don’t come to a date wearing anything that shows skin that ISN’T to be stared at.. This is a handy guide to remember when wondering “ohh what should I wear?”… we will evaluate anything we can see.

2) Don’t tell us “I’ve made some really bad choices/I seem to attract bad boys”. Ever. What you’re REALLY saying is “I have no selection process”. It’s the equivalent of going to buy a car and the owner saying “there’s a lot of miles on the clock and it’s been driven hard”.

3) When you get up halfway through the date to visit the ladies’ room and tell your girls how the date is going, walk slowly, we want to eye you up in your tight dress.. This is ALSO a handy tip when wondering what to wear.*See #1

4) Us blokes don’t like “bitches”. Fact. Sure, we’ll sleep with you if you’re pretty/fit/look like you’ll do “fun stuff”. We’ll even date you and be Mr Nice Guy long enough in order to get a bit, but you’re never going to be placed on the “keeper” list if you are genuinely not a nice person. Snapping at the waiter for a minor transgression will ensure you get ditched for “Suzie Smiley Face” in the longterm.

5) You know that thing where you just can’t give up an ex even though you know they’re bad for you and treat you awfully? Yeah? Well, manly men don’t HAVE that. If a man is done with a woman that is a bitch (see above), then she’ll most likely have her p45 and a pat on the head (unless she is required for sex). So don’t mention your ex from 11yrs ago that keeps coming back into your life.

6) We are all Mummies boys, yes, ALL of us. ESPECIALLY the tough guys. Don’t question anything about a mans mother until you’ve met her. Don’t criticise a mans mother until your name is on the mortgage deed. This is a p45-worthy error.

7) Vegetarians are ok. We get it, kind of. But if you look like you’re going to gag at our caveman meat-feast, our mind will race forward 5 years to a fridge full of cress, rocket and you trying to make our kids eat quorn. Not to mention the stereotype of veggies not doing “fun stuff”.

8) The whole “independent 21st century woman” thing basically signals to us that you don’t want kids/can’t cook/will quite happily race in to your mid-30s preaching that you don’t need a man. This may scare us. We are simple creatures (seriously). Maybe, don’t use that phrase until we get to know you.

9) We’ll happily get the bill. And we will continue to for some time. Please don’t worry about ordering too much or eating a lot… If you’re in even moderately good shape, this won’t freak us out at all. Quite the opposite. So just get it if you like it!

10) The 1st couple of dates are your chance to make a massive impression. Being nervous is ok (we’re not as judgmental as you, see). But please understand that we WILL “credit check” you. Now I don’t mean we’ll look into your finances, but you’ll only get from us what you qualify for. If you’re only worth a physical relationship, thats all you’ll get. So try to give us an inclination as to what YOU want! Dont be mad if we try to invite you up for a coffee after you’ve talked about sex all night and gotten drunk. Lay your cards out, ladies! (in a subtle way).

Craig also runs a website and is a personal fitness trainer:
http://www.thefitnessfreaks.co.uk/

Thanks Craig!

Get something from that ladies? Personally I liked the bit about the bill part 😉
Becki Bx

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