Yes this is a pretty generic post for the first of January. How… to change… your life. Well that sounds like pretty big task really doesn’t it. You might be sitting there thinking you are perfectly happy and you do not want to change anything. Wicked. Then this post is not for you. BE GONE!
So… how to change your life. How how HOW. Hmmm. Where to start. What to change. Sometimes starting with a vision can be a good place. A goal you wanted perhaps when you were younger. Although sometimes these goals can feel as if they are too far away and far too unobtainable. And that you’ll never get there. And so starting can be really hard. And pointless. And gosh – I’m tired of even thinking of how to get there!
I certainly do not have all the answers and I… am still on my journey which I am assuming might actually take up my whole life time. And to be honest. I’m not entirely sure where I am going. But that’s ok. I’m not too worried about that anymore… I’m trying as best as I can to enjoy the journey. After all ‘life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans’ (apparently). I can only really relate to you about what I have done so far get to this point that I am at (and you might even be further ahead of me on this journey).
So… in 2011 I decided… I had had enough of drinking. The hangovers were getting longer. And to be fair it was doing nothing for my figure. And thus I have managed to abstain from alcohol for just over a year, have quit smoking and have taken up yoga and cinnamon tea instead. And I have to say it was really easy. And you can do it too! Ok. That was a lie. It was actually really f*cking hard. And in fact it has been a pretty rough ride. But the question is has it been worth it? And the answer to that my friends is most definitely YES! And you can do it too.
If we’d have had a chat when I was around 25 I would have said to you that I didn’t believe in sitting with feelings. Why? What is the point in that? Life is far too short. And we could die tomorrow. Let us live in the day! But I now aware that I was not very honest with myself. In terms of whether I was happy. And becoming happy (or striving towards it by getting out of a crappy situation) might at times (for anyone) feel quite risky. I know that for me – I felt like I was on quite a lonely path. I didn’t know where to go for help. And many times I have wanted to give up giving up or whatever it was I was doing. I have thus so far learnt a lot about practicing the art of patience. And the problem that occurs with trying to change whatever it is that you are trying to change is that there is no rule book and what works for one person doesn’t necessarily work for another. Take a look at weight loss programmes for gawds sake – so many conflicting ideas circling us WHICH ONE TO CHOOSE?
Personally I know some people who love the AA programme and use that to abstain and I know others who shy away from it and have looked to other avenues for help. At the end of the day it’s all down to what works for you as an individual. I believe that we can read all the self help books in the world – but when those feelings hit – then it’s putting those coping mechanisms into place and using them to your advantage. And that can be the tough bit.
Firstly you need to know what it is you want to change/do differently. Or to acknowledge the problem.
I have listened to many people’s opinions over the years. ‘you don’t have a problem..’, ‘everyone drinks too much – that’s British culture’, ‘you’re normal’ blah blah blah. But I do certainly believe in what Steve Jobs say’s in that
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
All that matters really is what you are comfortable with.
So this is all really simple so far right? Hmmm. Let’s go back to that intuition thing. Intuition in the dictionary states:
“The ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning.”
Personally I found intuition quite a tough one to fathom. How could I be sure I could trust my gut feelings? Perhaps a part of me wanted to live in denial. Living in truth might mean letting go of some things in life that are weighing you down that you might not want to yet. But guess what it’s ok! Rome wasn’t built in a day. You’ve done enough today just thinking about it all. And that’s where it all starts…
We’ll revisit this when I have time to write another blog. But for now – I will leave you with this wicked awesome track that I adore…
Do feel free to get involved…
Happy New Year