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“Everyone’s got their chains to break
Were you born to resist or be abused? Is someone getting the best, the best, the best, the best of you?” Foo Fighters

So – I wasn’t going to comment on this campaign but.. I couldn’t help but reflect on the discourse going on before me.  Many strangers and friends have been posting the #metoo hashtag on twitter and Facebook. Male friends stating their shock and support at the amount of people coming forward. And getting ‘likes’ in double numbers.

The  ‘Me too’ hashtag isn’t just about creepy dudes in bathrobes, you know.” (The Independent)

Don’t get me wrong – it’s great that this is coming to the forefront and being discussed. However. I started to reflect a bit deeper on the movement last night. Why is it that men or women posting in support are suddenly being congratulated on supporting the sexual assault campaign? Shouldn’t that support be standard anyway.

The #metoo campaign has evolved after concerns to Harvey Weinstein – a ‘once’ powerful Hollywood producer, who now faces allegations of sexual assault/harrassment. This allegedly also includes two of rape.

Weinstein formed the film production company Miramax with his brother. Think – Pulp FictionClerksGood Will Hunting some of your favourite movies right?

Some of these allegations – made by some of the most powerful female celebrities/icons/models on our screens today lead back to more than two decades ago.

So I came to thinking. Of the Jimmy Saville scandal – and of the widespread public disgust that arose from that.

When asked why nobody did anything, Mr Lemmon said: “I suppose because it was Jimmy.” (Telegraph)

And I ask myself the question – WHAT HAS TAKEN SO LONG????!!!? For the world to listen? If even the most powerful women in our society have fought so long to be heard.. (over two decades) what does this say for the rest of the population who have suffered such trauma (male and female).

The #metoo hashtag was actually created by 44-year-old activist Tarana Burke ten years ago. She founded the campaign as a grass-roots movement to reach sexual assault survivors in underprivileged communities. As a way to connect with #survivors with #survivors. (Ebony Mag)

I look to the Hollywood actors and actresses speaking out and starting a much needed conversation as well as many other celebrities that have made their stories of sexual violence known by using the “me too” hashtag, starting a much needed domino effect. And I commend them. And you!

Because it’s an uncomfortable topic. That is ignored all (most/a lot) of the time.

I recently read the recent post on The Independent  which offers an interesting alternative perspective on the matter talks about “being shunned as a whistleblower”.

It seems very easy to write disgust at assault on Facebook and get a few hundred likes but. What will actually change?

Whilst Facebook is a powerful tool – and writing in solidarity is great and that the ‘me too’ hashtag is a good start, I worry that it could dangerously minimalize the importance of the topic if not careful.

And I mean, by forgetting those that suffer in silence. Those whose first validation of exposure – at rape or sexual assault – who might write a ‘#metoo’ post.. that it might be ignored. Or passed by. And those that are perhaps even too ashamed to write the first letter ‘M’ on their social media site.

“According to a study by the NSPCC on young people (aged between 13–18), a third of girls and 16 percent of boys have experienced sexual violence and that as many as 250,000 teenage girls are suffering from abuse at any one time. 12 percent of boys and 3 percent of girls reported committing sexual violence against their partners.” (Wonderslist)

And those that have had to face their perpertrators in court. That are too afraid to speak out. That don’t get their voices heard due to not being passed through the CPS system. Those shunned. Those so overwhelmed with shame to say anything. Anything at all. Despite knowing verbally that it wasn’t/isn’t their fault. And those – too young to even know the words that fit the description of what is happening to them.

“we love celebrities because they are an integral part of culture. They have made it in the worldview we are so entrenched in. By worshipping them (to an extent), we feel as if we are participating in this hugely important cause/belief system. And that makes us feel all warm and fuzzy, and like our life matters” (Pyschology today)

And I question – as this mirrors the whirlwind of the Jimmy Saville scandal once again –  why has it taken a case like Harvey Weinstein’s to get something like this moving? Does it feel more close to home the further away it is? What about the girl or boy next door. Or indeed in other countries.. where women can be sent to prison for being raped.

“With an estimated of 500,000 rape cases every year, the country has one of the highest rate of Rape Crimes in the world. It is estimated that more than 40% of South African women will be raped in their lifetime.”

And I find myself pondering – perhaps – it is those that are famous and on our TV screens – that can actually really change things. And I accept that, that is the way society is built. And I commend the bravery coming from those places. For whilst, these men and women might be ‘famous’ I’m sure the evidence that appears; of the length of time that even the most powerful amongst us struggle to be heard – well. That is very telling. And aren’t we all simply humans?

And so as someone said to me once “you have shamed shame”. And to you I urge… Keep it up. For the path to victory, is rarely linear, let’s hope the Weinstein case will be a change in history for millions of women and men around the world.

And as a friend posted on Facebook after disclosing ‘not that it will actually change anything’. I feel her anger and I too, can quite often retreat into a state of despair. But like he say’s in #shawshankredemption

“Remember, Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies.” #ohDearyme

Peace and love.

Becki Bx

I follow other #survivors on Twitter campaigning endlessly for better rights for #survivors – including Ian McFadyen , Sammy Woodhouse , David Lean who tirelessly campaign for the rights of #survivors and I commend their work.

It is not aimed to offend – just a blog about the general confusion that quite often appears in my head. 

 

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It’s been a very difficult week for a lot of people living in West London. A lot of people have lost their lives in the Grenfell Tower tragedy. And then there are the friends and family that have been directly affected in what has been a very tragic and upsetting event.

As a resident of the Kensington and Chelsea borough – and as a part time volunteer at Citizens Advice – I found myself – in some unexpected situations I could not have predicted.

This included interviewing (very briefly) Mayor of London Sadiq Khan, meeting an amazing filmmaker called Janey Ayoade who was helping a strong activist called Neville by filming his story. Briefly meeting Peaky Saku and his friends working as best they could/can to help. Experiencing Mustafa Almansur attempting to collate and lead a committee (due to the Council not being seen anywhere at this point), and hearing the name Ishmahil Blahgrove spoken everywhere I went (I haven’t met him)… but I think he is a brilliant speaker rising up against the mainstream media.

And then there’s the famous face of Lily Allen. Who I met briefly, obviously deeply upset and passionate about helping and using the voice she has to vocalise what she saw. Maybe (and I can only really speculate) aware of her status and not wanting to make the situation about her. The ‘dancing on the fine line of trying to help and intentions being misconstrued’ and taking a lot of flack from the media – one has to be a very strong character to take that on board. 

And then let us not forget the children affected. Ryan Faraji and Tina Faraji aged 6 and 8. Ryan who lost his best friend Yacob. A voice of perspective for his generation. Too young to understand how powerful his message is to the rest of us.

There is a lot to write about this event. But I will not write it all now. I felt as an independent blogger/filmmaker that it was important to capture what was happening, on the ground. Firstly, because I didn’t feel that the media were reporting it authentically. And secondly, because when these families and residents look back on this. They may want to see and reflect on what went on. One day.

I have noted a few names up there. People trying to help. Let it be noted. There are a lot of people not mentioned here trying as best they can, with whatever they can to help as much as they can. This does not take away from the fact that this event – has affected so many people and has been an extremely tragic and heart wrenching situation. And it will always be about those people affected.

Whether I have done the right or wrong thing with capturing these moments. Well. That is arguable and I questioned that myself. And to be honest I don’t know the answer to that. But I did it with the best intention. An attempt to create a ripple effect in the right direction. I felt it was the right thing to do – whilst the media are putting out heavily edited footage.

The trauma that residents are going through is and will be huge. An Iranian woman that survived passed out during an interview with the BBC whilst describing the event to a reporter (which Kimia Zabihyan who was translating at the time claims was never broadcast). Kimia related that the woman wanted her story to be told. Why? Because it was so shockingly traumatic – almost in an unbelievable way (as in – is this really happening in Great Britain today?) that she felt it was important to tell her story.

But for now – above is a ten minute unedited clip and pictures I took, through my eyes.

Unedited – so that. Well you can make your own mind up.

To all those who have lost their lives. Rest in peace. My thoughts are with those directly affected. I’m sorry that this happened to you.

Best,

Becki BXx

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Carpe Diem

An ohDearyme Interview with Sergio Giannasso by Becki Burrows

From: Puglia, Italy

Current location: Covent Garden, London

Current happiness levels out of 10: 11 (Becki: ‘ooh nice one!)

Favourite film: Dirty Dancing

Favourite musician: Giacomo Puccini

Favourite artist: Henri Matisse

Henri Matiss

Favourite book: Dark fire by C.J.Sansom

Dark Fire

 

Favourite colour: Fuchsia (Becki: google tells me that.. fuchsia is another name for magenta sometimes described as hot pink, reddish-purple, vivid pink and light purple).

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Brief synopsis: Owner & Creative Director of Giannasso Hair & Beauty

QUESTIONS:

You started out as an apprentice at 19 and spent five years blowdrying hair… and have trained and worked with some of the worlds biggest brands in the hairdressing industry – including Charles Worthington. I found you to be very down to earth and friendly – how do you keep your ego at bay in an industry like this?

By being myself and keeping my feet on the ground! I always remember my main goal is to please my clients whilst creating a great bond with them & maintaining professionalism.

What was it about styling hair that attracted you?

The art of it.

You run the self-titled shop Giannasso Hair & Beauty in Covent Garden – why London?

I feel it’s the heart of the world and not too far from home.

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Who are your style icons?

Italian film actress – Sophia Loren

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Actress Sophia Loren

You styled David Hasselhoff’s aka “The Hoff”‘s hair! How was he? Do you have a picture? Awesome!

He knew exactly what he wanted but took my professional advice.

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Sergio with David Hasselhoff @DavidHasselhoff

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You love to bake at home  – and serve your special alcohol free recipes (Tiramisu) to your clients which is a lovely touch! What is it you love about baking?

I’m afraid you don’t bake tiramisu! (ME: Oops).. I love that unique touch. The recipe was passed on from my Grandma- it’s her secret recipe!

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There is only one store so far – do you see yourself expanding soon? I have big dreams & why not!

From my experience of your salon – your staff seem to be having a lot of fun, yet very professional – a warm and relaxing atmosphere – is this the Italian ethos? This is what I have always wanted with my salon, a professional but charismatic team- I think that’s what makes us special!

What styles in hair would you say, in your opinion, are hot right now?

For me ‘what’s hot right now’ doesn’t exist, it’s what should be tailored to you. I believe the hair cut has to work with you, not the other way round.

What do you enjoy about the creative process of styling?

Being able to emphasise the best features in my clients and bring out the best in them.

You are award winning tell us a little about those awards…

I get great satisfaction for being recognised for showing that special magic touch! We won best team/service at the London Hair and Beauty Awards 2016. I’m very proud to say we have just found out we won Gold for Best Hair Salon and Best Colour Technician, as well as, Silver for Best Hair Stylist of the year at this year’s British Hair & Beauty Awards 2017!

What else do you offer in store?

I like to think of the salon as a ‘one stop shop’. We offer a wide range of hair services, beauty treatments, make-up and also offer bridal packages.

You guys styled my hair really well – then I went home and tried to do it myself. With some rollers and er, some extra firm hairspray (I had to take my friends dog for a quick walk). Basically I’m rubbish at styling my own hair. Do you have any tips for me please? What am I doing WRONG?!? AAAAHHHH!

I always recommend to use the products advised by your stylist. It’s vital that you start your hair at the front/fringe as it makes it easier to get the style into place. The best tool to use at home is Velcro rollers as they give you great volume and bounce without damaging your hair, classic but effective!

What brands would you recommend for keeping my fabulous (and I do love it) new colour fresh?

I would recommend our new Silky Reloaded product. This is a take home product for you to use to bring back the tone that’s lost after washes to your hair.

You used the brand Silky – they are from Italy – my colour is still looking fab. Tell us more about them?

This colour range is fantastic for both vibrant shades and being kind to hair. With just 1% ammonia, Silky delivers great shine/condition and beautiful colour. I am really enjoying using them.

I am trying to avoid burning my hair – do you have any tips that might help in maintaining it’s health whilst I am swimming/sunbathing/styling?

I always recommend Neal & Wolf heat protection spray! Its light weighted so it does not kill the volume!

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Neal Wolf

What do you love about your job? Being able to make people happy and feel confident whilst creating bonds and in some cases dear friends! It makes me feel special that I can do this.

What makes you happy? My love for life.

Do you have a quote that you live by? Carpe Diem (live in the moment).

What fashion styles are you enjoying at the minute? What do you predict for the future.. ? At the moment I love simplicity with colour. For the future I predict that fashion and sporting clothing will merge for every day wear, comfort but yet still fashion.

Best thing about London? The freedom

What are the styles like and how do they differ to the British styles in Italy?

I feel like the style in Italy is a little stuck in their ways. It’s very classical, impeccable and beautifully put together. Where as in Britain it may not always be perfectly put together but yet it can be unique, interesting and inspiring!

What would be your top tips for people who want to start out in the industry?

Be prepared for a long hard road, be patient, work hard and enjoy every step of the way!

You have worked on catwalks in Milan to styling models – what has been your favourite experience so far?

The excitement rush you get minutes before the runway starts…it only lasts a few minutes but its intense.

When you are styling someone I noticed you are studying them quite a bit- what are you looking for? As a Make-Up Artist (#mua) I always look at the complexion, eyes and face shape to what you’re wearing, to how you talk and the tone of your voice to determine what hair style/colour would suit you best. That’s why we never do a consultation with a gown on!

How do I say thanks in Italian? Grazie!

Visit Sergio’s salon in London at:

53 St Martins Lane

Covent Garden, London – WC2N 4EA

Sergio Giannasso


f.   : 0207 240 9973
e.  : bookings@giannasso.co.uk
w. : www.giannasso.co.uk

Twitter: @SergioGiannasso

Facebook: @SergioGiannasso

Pics of my new hair and the team below:

Grazie! And remember y’all Seize the Day! 

Becki Bx

Sergio Giannasso and Rob

Sergio Giannasso and Rob

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You know what I can’t stand? Seeing a picture in a magazine – and thinking – ‘YES! THAT! That is an AMAZING style!’.

Cutting out a few examples.. taking them into a hairdressers full of hope and excitement. ‘I want that colour!’.

To receive a negative response.

‘Ohh. No. We can’t do that. That would take a while to get to that colour’. (hmm…can’t or can’t be bothered?)

‘Ok.. that’s ok!’ I usually reply despondently yet still with a bit of hope.

“Quite a long… long while.” the hairdresser usually adds.

“Plus your hair will probably break off or fall out and you’ll end up with a wig for the rest of your life”.

“Oh. Right..”.

Then I’m usually offered the colour book. And I’m shown the choice of browns. Dark brown. Or medium brown. Or! Maybe. I could go for a light brown.

It is at this point, that I sadly pick out a generic colour from the demonstration folder and succumb to what I like to call: STYLE CENSORSHIP. Folding up my magazine clippings forlornly.. sighing quietly to myself. oh Dear.

WELL!!!!!!!! THAT ALL CHANGED LAST WEEK!

BEFOREHAIRPIC

I walked in to Giannasso’s Hair & Beauty salon located in central London – Covent Garden and sat down in the chair to meet creative Director Sergio Giannasso. As I did.. I noticed the team all leaning in to listen. As I told him my hair desires and my struggles they all nodded in understanding. Perhaps that’s why they’re working here? I find myself pondering.

BEFORETWO“Perhaps a fringe?” Sergio suggests.

I look at him in horror and in a woeful and cringingly high voice reply with “I’ve just grown that out!”. Embarrassing.

“I want a bright colour though. Something creative. Different. Everytime I go in to a hairdressers on the high street they seem to just get you in and straight out – and nothing is different” I moan.

Sergio is peering at me and nods seemingly in understanding. He whisks out a gown and puts it around my neck.

“Well bella!” he declares. “We’re not like that here!” he says in a bold Italian accent, winking.

The team bustle around in an attempt to make me as comfortable as possible – Coffee? Tea? They smile.

Everyone is slightly on edge as London is on high alert, but getting on with things diligently.

I head downstairs. The studio has some good looking art displayed on the wall  – giving it a warm, bright and happy feeling.

The colour team start to lather some Silky colour into my hair. Sergio has chosen a bright red.

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“Right. Tiramisu Time!” Sergio declares. ‘Homemade!”

“Hasn’t it got alcohol in it?” I query. “Not this one!” he smiles! “it’s homemade!” he adds in again proudly. “Oh. Ok. Yes please then!”. A little of what you like an’ all that. And I’ve never tried Tiramisu so am not even sure if I like it. (I did).

 

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When it’s time to style, designer and Brazilian born Rob takes charge with the cutting and styling under Sergio’s direction.  As he finished cutting and blowdrying he starts to curl my hair.

Oh my god. I think to myself. I hate my hair wavy (I have wavy hair). It reminds me of this time when I was 15 and had a bad homemade perm. And everyone at school took the p*ss for weeks. It looked awful.

I decide not to voice my concerns and to trust the Creative team. I close my eyes and try to relax.

I open my eyes tentatively. And look at myself in the mirror. ‘OH! Wow! I love it!’ I delightedly exclaim. Which I have never said out loud in a hairdressers before.

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I don’t do bad reviews on this blog. I’d rather just not say anything. So if anyone is featured on this blog it’s because I believe they are good. Exceptional. Etc. 

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A lady (a regular to the salon) who is having her hair styled smiles over at me. ‘It looks great’ she shouts happily. And she gives me a thumbs up.

‘Thank you!’ I give Sergio a big hug (something I usually never do either but he has that friendly Italian air about him).

“I told you! You would get what you want here!” he says.

‘You proved that statement right” I reply bluntly admiring my new curls. Different.

As I bounce out of the salon, I hear Sergio talking to a different client. ‘Tiramisu! he is urging her – homemade!’

And I smile to myself. A truly special salon.

TO CONCLUDE:

For a positive experience.. I would definitely recommend a visit to Sergio’s hair team! Friendly (this is very important to me) creative, unique and artistic. They give the impression of caring about each individual client (and each other, which is nice to see) and for me customer service is important. I am definitely going back. If they let me back in!

Sergio (on the left and Rob on the right).

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A 5/5 experience. ‘Better than your average Joe’ as we sorta say here in England. 

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And on a different note. Did I tell you I met Louis Theroux yesterday? Picture HERE. My self hair styling was er.. not great..(it wasn’t planned! Ahem always be prepared an all that).. putting your work to shame Sergio!

Feel free to tweet Louis to urge him to er. Giz a job. I’m sure he’d love that. 😉

Next up on the blog! An interview with Sergio himself, Creative Director of Giannasso Hair & Beauty and tips on styling hair at home!

A short video diary of my life is here on Instagram:

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Right! Gotta go VOTE!

“Ciao for now” 😉

Be nice to each other.

Becki BXx

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Sergio Giannasso:

WEBSITE: www.giannasso.co.uk

TWITTER:  twitter.com/sergiogiannasso

INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/giannassohairandbeauty/

FACEBOOK:  www.facebook.com/SergioGiannasso/

Rob styled my hair using Neal Wolf products:

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Three months and two weeks (and two days actually but hey who’s counting) I took myself to the doors of what I hoped would be… redemption. The desire to skip over this part is strong. And I might just indeed do that. A culmination of fear of judgement, other people’s opinions , advice and psychiatric diagnoses headed my way… “all you need to do Becki is..” … “if I was you I would…”… “why don’t you just…” … resulting in… “I think sometimes its easier to just say nothing at all”. But here I am writing about it and wondering where shaming and fear starts. The playground perhaps… where whispers, gossip and damaging ideas are vocalised… “did you hear about so and so” for example.. “he’s damaged goods…”.

 

I’m trying to type this on an tablet. God it’s hard work.

 

Anyway, with the utterances of “honesty is always the best policy” I tend to find myself thinking… “are you sure about that”. I am usually on a get fit and quit everything mission but generally have been on the first rung of the ladder or in a two steps forward and three steps back position. Stuck in that place where one can’t see any growth or progress but are learning some lessons at least.
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom” Aristotle
But right this minute as I’m typing this… I’m two steps forward rather than several back. But I’m aware of how that can change. And thus I’ve learnt in my short yet occasional seemingly long life on planet earth that sometimes some things that ‘should’ be pretty simplistic can be harder than one thought to put into actual practice. I might tell myself I’m giving up coffee for example but by 7am the next morning when I’m reaching for the kettle my mind has already decided that that goal is going to be delayed til tomorrow. So three and a half months back I started training and working out with no specific goal in mind or outcome other than I wanted to feel better than I felt. Which was like crap. And something that was significantly holding me back in any of my fitness goals or getting to my desired weight was alcohol.

 

It was not a lack of working out that was the problem…I tried it all…bootcamps, yoga retreats but.. it wasn’t until I broke the spell with what I now see as a toxic substance (in my life) that anything else was going to work.

 

My first get fit goal was a 5k race… and to build up to this I started off small and regular. I was actually in rehab whilst I started this part and although one wasn’t/isn’t allowed off site alone… I knew I could get away with not being missed for an hour. I guess I was one of the less troublesome ‘inmates’ and didn’t need keeping an eye on. So off I started..  down the winding paths of the glorious British countryside on a blazing hot summers day with nothing but my music and a water bottle.

 

Which was totally fine until on my way back I found myself at a Wizard of Oz crossroad and had forgotten which way it was back to safety.

 

Left. Or was it right. Sh*t.

 

I was walking through a field wondering if anyone was aware I’d disappeared yet.. when I came across a man and his dog. Most probably looking beetroot red… he asked me if I was ok.
“Erm yes er..“ … “are you lost?” he queried. I wanted to ask for directions but didn’t want to admit where I was staying. It just sounded… stupid.

 

“Erm yeah.. er do you know where the main road is?” I queried…. he peered at me.

 

“Ok I’m staying at a huge house.. in about – er that direction do you know where it is?” I blurted it out.

 

“The rehab?!” he asked.

 

“Yes…the [bloody] rehab” I quickly shot back resisting the temptation to roll my eyes.

 

“Oh sure..that way” he pointed off into the distance.. ”it’s awful hot to be running around in this weather…be careful” he said slowly peering at me. I thought I sensed him trying to figure out what I was there for but he was probably just being considerate. After all…it probably happened ALL the time…people running away to get to an off licence for instance.

 

“Thank you” I shouted putting my headphones on and running in the direction his hand  had waved at…  as fast as I could trying to hide my embarrassment by the speed of my feet…which admittedly wasn’t fast enough…

 

I completed my first 10k a few weeks ago.. and have so far lost 17 pounds.. I’m working towards my next goal of running a half marathon.. which to be honest.. sounds like hell. Exercise/fitness for me is.. a huge motivation for staying on the right track. It clears my mind and exerts unused energy. I’m doing a culmination of British Military Fitness and Park Run‘s when I can fit them in. Although I’ve developed a bunionette from ill fitting trainers.. I’m pushing through.. I’m running a half marathon for ActionAid and Children’s Society.. sooooo.. 

 

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Your motivation and support is greatly received.

 

BeckiBx

 

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